2. Soul Mate
3. Twin Souls
"Every time our unconscious is working something out, it calls into our lives the people who have within the pieces of the answer we are seeking."
- Martin Schulman, Karmic Relationships
When we are involved in a karmic relationship we feel as if we have no control over events. We often act out of character in this relationship as we are confronted with feelings from the past which we are not consciously familiar or that we are consciously aware of. There is often an underlying pattern in the relationship. The reason for the relationship usually isn't clear until it's over. The karmic pattern isn't really understood until the lesson has been learned. Once the lesson is learned...the pattern ends.
There is usually something in the other person we need to learn and to grow into and incorporate into our consciousness. We need to know this about our selves in order to help us resolve a karmic problem. We attract what we need at a time in our life when we are ready to understand. "When the student is ready, the teacher will appear" is what karmic relationships are all about. However, this entire process of personal growth (many relationship experiences, failed jobs, friendships) may take years of forming "new" insights so that we can resolve our karmic patterns.
We reap what we sow do unto others...the golden rule...all of that.
Can there be more than one soul mate or karmic mate?
Yes - We can..If you believe in past lives..that our soul's have been here before..then you can believe that we have many people that we will meet up with in this lifetime that we remember on some soul level. We are meant to meet up in this lifetime to complete a task or a promise we may have made in the past. We have many lessons to learn in here and we have come into this life with many tasks to complete. Everyone we come in contact with has a message for us to learn and we also have lessons to teach. Very often we ignore the messages and people who enter our lives for a very specific purpose. We do not always know the purpose of these meetings upon first glance. Sometimes it is only after someone has left our lives that we realize what was meant to learn. Lessons aren't always pleasant or easy. They can be painful at times.
There are many Astrological markers to show karmic or soul mate connections. There are astrological techniques I look tawords when I look at two charts to see the dynamics and past life connections ie: aspects to the Nodes of the Moon both the north and the south, Ascendant/Decendant (1st and 7th house cusps) and MC/IC axis (4th and 10th house cusps) as well as their rulers, contact to both Pluto and Chiron as well as Saturn..and we can't forget Venus in our romantic involvements. Utilization of asteroids/transneptunians will validate and clarify other points. You can see so much in the birth chart of two people, why they have met as well as examining the chart, date time and place of the first meeting of the people or first contact. This all becomes very clear in studying the birth charts.
2. Soul Mates (Author Unknown)
I believe that many people have difficulty embracing the idea of past lives or in reincarnation. Yet many of these same individuals are determined to find their Soul Mates. If you are of the same mindset as I, then you too will believe that we tend to attract people or partners to us who compliment ourselves in some way. In attracting these people or partners, we attract exactly what we need in order to grow. Very often, what we do not own in ourselves, we will attract from the outside and through others. This will force us to confront that which we do not see or own in ourselves or in our behavior. It may force us to focus on making the changes necesssary for our personal growth. I believe that a Soul Mate can be a man or a woman....it makes no difference. We can have many Soul Mates; not just one, although it is my belief that we only have one Twin Soul. What makes a Soul Mate relationship so special is the ability to immediately and intimately connect on a much deeper level; we perceive in the other that which we do not have, that which we are lacking. Through this type of symbiotic relationship, something wonderful happens. Through this relationship we confront or become more aware of our limitations. This kind of *joining* transforms the other, and visa versa.
Much has been discussed and written on the topic of Soulmates. Several months ago, after some discussion, a friend sent me a wonderful article on the topic of the Soulmate relationship. It left quite an impression on me at the time and wanted to share it here. If anyone knows who the author is, I would love to know to give proper credit. Here is what was written:
When we are born it begins a journey. Along the way on this long winding path we eventually end up seeking many things. One of which is love. In the beginning, it is from our Mother & Father, then our family, community and so on. Eventually, assuming everything goes right, we begin to find we have a void within us, which other forms of love can't seem to fill.
We have all known loneliness, a dark emptiness within our soul which seems to stretch for an eternity. We feel like we are apart of nothing, just drifting aimlessly upon the sea of humanity with no destination, nor land in sight. At times despair is like our wet clothing as we shiver cold and alone in the darkness. To distract ourselves we dream of "The One" and how they will lift our spirits and take away the emptiness, this absence of life.
For some, eventually someone comes along and brings light to this darkness. But as humans, sometimes we are by this time so starved to be "touched" that we unknowing make compromises which, if we were rational we would not make. Thus the saying. "Blinded by Love ". Because, of these compromises, we may never find our true predestined love.
Many of you now, are not in a "Soulmate" relationship. The truth is you got tired of waiting and you settled for the best "offer" at the time. This was your choice, and now is your Karma. But in your heart, in your soul, you know if someone is your Soulmate, for it goes beyond just love. It is a form of joining.
When you meet your, (SM) this person will have an instantaneous effect on you. A Soulmate is someone who makes your knees go weak and you want to catch your breath. With but a single glance they lesson your burden and but a smile, warms your heart. You will feel a sense of connection ( affinity ) with this person. They will touch you so deeply on so many levels, you will want to share your inner most secrets. For the first time in your life someone will make you feel like almost like a god. Once you have met your (SM) for better or sometimes worse, your life will never be the same.
One of the things which makes this experience unique is the sense of a meaningful spiritual experience. You both feel like this is to be and that you've been together before in a past incarnation. Normally for some, it is several months, weeks or days before physical intimacy (sex) occurs. But when you meet your (SM) something happens, the pull or drive to become physically intimate overwhelms many, and one finds it happening basically in the initial meeting. There's a sense of safety with this person. You knowingly let go of your defenses as an empathic like bond is formed. Unlike other relationships, in the past, there will be no game playing or hidden agendas which plagued you in the past.
Sometimes the best way to find something, is by not looking for it. With this in mind, you probably will meet your Soulmate (SM) when you're not looking. Since life revels in making things difficult, you'll probably meet them in the morning when your on the grave yard shift. For many it will be after a bad relationship or several bad relationships. If you're lucky you won't have to wait until your 50 to meet your (SM). But if you do. well at least you'll appreciate it's significance more, than someone in there twenties. You have had the benefit of experience, the perspective of age and the knowledge, such love is once in a life time.
The point here is "Serendipity", so forget about taking that "Singles" bus tour to the Circus. Sure you'll meet a lot of nice people and perhaps you really should get out, but just be prepared to ..Well, meet some real clowns.
The universe is a funny place, don't be surprised if your Soulmate is older or younger. Soulmate's don't care about age. How much older or younger ? From my observations, expect years like 7 to 20. In a true (SM) relationship it won't matter, if anything it will make you stronger. Life is not neat, nor has it ever been. So why should it start now ?
There is something about the Passion you share with an (SM). It goes beyond just " body parts". For a moment in time you two are the only ones who exist in the universe. Hearts beating in rhythm as your souls have intertwined themselves becoming one. Your personal energies meld and you feel the flame of creation move through you like a wave of the ocean on a hot summers day. Soon you begin to lose track, of where you begin and your partner ends. From within the depths of your raw passionate union, your (SM) will know how and where to touch you. It will be different, intense and more gratifying than lovers of your past.
They will look into your eyes and you will feel your soul open wide. For some people, there is the "Rush". All the love, all the lust, all the need will surge forth from your soul like captives from a prison. At this moment you will know what it means to get lost within someone's eyes. You will experience a touch you have never felt before and your lust will rise to new levels. Often, in the case of true Soulmates, you can get so carried away you can actually hurt yourself. ( I know.. she caused me to pull several muscles one night) But in the end as you lay there, as the warm afterglow begins to fade, you will realize what just happened was not sex. "Sex, simply doesn't feel this good."
To put it simply, your (SM) will be able to make love to you in ways no one else will be able to match.
It is within our nature as human being to fuck things up. The very thing which makes Soulmate love so special, is the one thing which can bring it down. The simple fact is, the unparalelled love & passion is terrifying to many people.
We learned how to have relationships from our parents or primary giver. If your primary givers relationships were dysfunctional, then chances are so are yours. There are many people in this world who in relationships maintain an extreme amount of emotional control. They take pride in the fact that their partner is madly in love with them. By being able to "wrap them around their finger" they feel safer. Thus, all their relationships become based on this pattern. Then one day their (SM) comes along and wham!. Quickly they discover the control over their heart and the relationship is gone. Now they must relate on a level playing field, and for many, they run.
For those of you who are runners let me tell you what you already know. It doesn't work. You can move to the other side of the planet, marry someone else and fill up your spare time with some cause. But the simple truth is, your (SM) will be there in your soul. No matter how hard you try, no matter how busy you make yourself, everyday they will enter you thoughts. So then many try and fuck them out. But that doesn't work either, for it becomes just sex and as you lay there afterwards you will feel empty and cheated.
A good measure of this is a simple test. After you have just made love to the person who you are using as a safe substitute, do you find yourself wanting to "get away" from them? A kind of "Okay, I got off..now get away from me feeling"? This is assuming that you can still get off. In some cases your orgasms are just barely, if you're lucky. When you were with your (SM), didn't you feel the need to remain close, to pull each other tightly and melt into each other? That's the difference....and one which is very hard to hide from yourself.
If you run, then you've made the conscious choice to doom yourself and the other person to be haunted for the rest of your life. Sure, you may eventually fall in love with someone who fits your preconceived image or expectation (cute, rich or successful) of what your partner should be. But as time moves on...you never forget, you always wonder and then you eventually regret. I have a saying:
The Soulmate relationship is worth putting up a fight, but there comes a time when you have done all that you can do..and you can do no more. At some point, the one who runs has to choose to stop and come to their senses. Life is sadly cruel, just as it is grand. Short of burying your child, losing your Soulmate is indescribable anguish.
It is like having your tender soul ripped from your body. You feel lost, abandoned and betrayed. There is a sense of panic which permeates your very being and personal existence. You find yourself saying, "never again". You did something you had never done before, you willingly let another in....all the way.
Eventually, after the shock, the depression comes, then the anger and then you just want it all to end. You wish you could just stop feeling...but you can't. And no matter how much you drink, smoke or eat, you can't make the pain go away. Yes, regular love hurts too..and badly. But when you lose your (SM), no matter how enlightened, wise or talented, in both will and spirit you are...it is devastating.
Many of us sadly, fail to recover and we truly never "Love" again. Those who are really weak, try to kill themselves. Be it with a car speeding on a wet winding road after drinking, or "J" walking on 42nd street, to just taking one too many pills. The end result is the same if we succeed, suicide is suicide whether you leave a note or not.
In the end, we don't even want to see the person, because that just tares open the wound over and over. Right or wrong, that's just the way it is. Eventually, you go on with your life and you stop hating them...because like you...they will never forget either.
Every now and then life gives us a happy ending. Sometimes, after trying to get their (SM) out of their minds, the "runner" comes to realize what they had lost. A few are wise enough to do whatever it takes to correct the situation and get back into their Soulmates arms. Hopefully, not enough time has gone by so that the situation is salvagable. But oftentimes it's not. All I can say is TRY. With Soulmates there is NO pride, and there CAN be forgiveness. We are destined to meet our Soulmate, what you do after that is "your" choice.
We are born into this world alone and we begin our journey. Few are lucky we find the right partner, "The ONE" along the way. With this person we grow, learn and experience the wonders of human existence. They become part of us, as we become part of them. Eventually, our journey must end as we were born to die, alone. But in between these two points we hopefully have learned, experienced and gained some wisdom with the chance to pass it on.
As I walk my chosen path I say to those of you who shall follow me, this is but one part of the road which lay ahead of you.
In my lifetime, I found my Soulmate. I know the joys, the exquisite highs and the sense of oneness, completion and peace. Yet as we turn the coin on the other side, I also know the ongoing torment of losing one. I hope you never have to find out how it feels....to lose part of oneself. But if you do, know this: "You will survive. Your life will never be the same, but given enough time you will survive" At such a moment, you are not able to see that way. Once you do survive, the choices, good or bad, are your responsibility...and life will be what YOU make of it.
The dedication was To: Kimberly....I waited all my life to find you....my Soulmate...and for a brief moment, YOUR thoughts were MY thoughts. MY goals were YOUR goals, YOUR dreams were MY dreams. The love was grand, the passion unrivaled and we both finally felt complete. Sadly for both of us, until YOU put in enough time on this planet...you may never understand the value of what was cast aside.
"Experience is the greatest teacher of all"....
Maybe....my love....we will get it right next lifetime.
3. Twin Souls
Search for Wholeness
"The worlds are just a playground of the you and I, the colorful mask of the two-in-one, I am in you like you are in me, oh love." Sri Aurobindo wrote these beautiful words, describing the twin soul relationship. Twin souls or twin flames are the male and female half soul whom together form a conscious, developed soul. According to many myths and esoteric teachings there originally existed one big soul, God, who divided him-her-itself along creation into smaller souls. In the human realm this process led to individual souls for each androgynous being, and finally these souls were divided into a male and female half for each man and woman. (I believe that the story of Adam and Eve is a symbolical description hereof.)
Since each male has a female part, and each female a male part, they somehow remember their original state of oneness and search for each other's complement in a partner. This is sexuality in a broader sense. The eastern yin-yang symbol very well expresses this eternal attraction of opposite parts, because one recognizes the self in the other one.
Yet the flame of God's oneness is in each individual being, what means that men and women can experience wholeness in oneself without having a partner. Men need to first develop their masculinity and then make room for their softer female side. Women first need to develop their femininity and then bring their masculine part to flower. This way people manifest the yin-yang symbol inside.
When the inner lover is recognized a next beautiful step on the journey to completion can be taken: finding and merging with the other side of your soul.
Twin soul relationships are very close; you share a same level of development and interests with a partner who deeply loves you for who you are, and who will encourage you to become more of who you are. Such relationships can be very harmonious. They can also encounter deep conflicts, because the quick personal development of the partners brings hidden patterns in a fast pace to the surface. And twin flames are complementary, so they can heartily disagree, yet value each other's differences. These relationships are often filled with coincidences or other signs of interconnectedness. Getting to know a twin soul often is dramatic, and somehow long before prepared by the Universe. This is a true story about such a meeting:
A teacher in grammar school tells about Marduk. Hearing this name somehow strikes a chord in a 10 years old girl. "Marduk" she dreams off, "what a wonderful name; he must be a dream prince. When I shall have a son later I will name him Marduk".
Thirty years go by, in which she never hears that name again. She finds herself in an unfulfilled life, seeking for happiness. So one day she decides to attend the teaching of an enlightened master. She does not know why, but her intuition strongly tells her that something special will happen that evening. She expects a spiritual experience, yet to her disappointment nothing extraordinary takes place.
On her way home she stops for a shop with religious objects. Suddenly she hears a cheerful voice behind her: "Now what can I buy you?" Nothing of course, the shop is closed. Yet a strange and open conversation on practicing meditation and sex-magick unfolds with a man she really finds very nice, but not at all handsome. Before she decides to go home he gives her his card for a free tarot reading. At home she takes a good look at this invitation. Only then she discovers the name of the giver: Marduk! She thinks about him every day, but is a loyal wife and therefore tries to forget him.
Two weeks later she wakes up from a strange dream. In this dream she is meditating while suddenly colored patterns of moving energy, like weavings of cloth, appear for her eye. The patterns rhythmically go up and down and change form after a while. It somehow feels very pleasant. Still in the dream she wonders what is going on, when a teasing inner voice asks: "is it unpleasant?" No it's great, but so very strange! In a flash she sees the image of Marduk, and she wakes up. She realizes that the patterns she saw are energy weavings; one translation of the word tantra is 'weaving', and that she was part of Marduk's sex-magickal orgasm.
Still she does not contact him.
Two months later she cannot find a way out of her marital problems anymore. She decides to ask Marduk for a tarot reading. While he explains her the meaning of the cards a sudden inner voice declares: "With you I want to go to bed, from you I want children, for you I am willing to die!" She finds this soul message shocking; yet it is the beginning of an intense and passionate relationship. Marduk surprised states: "we have been thrown together!" They recognize each other as two opposite endings of a scale, while meeting each other in many shared interests and characteristics, love, joy and respect. Another step back to wholeness is set.
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